Where has the time gone?

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Thursday, 27 July 2006

Expect posts to be erratic for the next few weeks because……WE SOLD OUR FUCKING HOUSE!!!!!  The inspection was today so hopefully they didn’t find anything the buyer can’t deal with.  We’ve found a little 1,000 sq foot house to rent for half the cost of our mortgage and we’re on our way.  The bank had to take a big loss half of which we will be paying back in monthly payments, but I think we’ll be able to finally breath.  It’s difficult to explain how money problems work their way into the pores of your life like a bacteria.  It’s going to take a while to get my head on straight again.

In Ellis news, he’s going to crawl any minute.  He wakes himself up at night by getting into the crawling position and rocking back and forth on his hands and knees all while he’s asleep.  It would be funny if I weren’t getting less sleep because of it.  I’m sure there will be plenty of video when he takes off.

That’s all the time I’ve got for now, I’m off to pack.  Anyone want 1500 square feet worth of furniture?

Little Faker

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Thursday, 20 July 2006

That being at the top is depressing me so here’s some video of my son working his momma.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZpHIpwMhq5k&mode=user&search=

he’s screaming because I walked behind the high chair out of his sight for .2 seconds.

Uncle Monkey a.k.a. Hunka Mike

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Sunday, 16 July 2006

My uncle and godfather, one of the most alive people I have ever known died very suddenly of a heart attack on Saturday.  There are no words. 

Here he is at my wedding 2 years ago. 

Maybe Some Day

Kathryn | Introspection | Sunday, 16 July 2006

I’ll feel brave enough to share my saggy stretch marks too. But not today. Anyway this has helped me to see a little beauty in my body.

 

(found via Yvonne)

Two things quickly

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Friday, 14 July 2006

First: do you think if the leaders of this world could just whip out the tape measure and measure each others dicks, we could get a little peace?

Second: wouldn’t it be nice if I could have just one second in my life when three people didn’t need something from me at once? That is all.

6 Months

Kathryn | Monthly Letters | Wednesday, 12 July 2006

This month went by slower than most with the lazy pace of summer.  When I look back at who you were one month ago it seems like light years away.  This is the month you went from infant to baby, and didn’t look back.  I don’t know the exact day it happened but sometime in the last month even your scent changed.  One day as my nose was buried in the nape of your neck I noticed that you didn’t smell like a little baby anymore, but like the 1 and 2 year olds I used to watch when I worked at the church day care.  It’s one part sweat, one part slobber, and one part diaper.  And it made me cry.
This month you discovered: making raspberries with your mouth, splashing bath water, sitting up, picking things up with one hand, Tucker the cat, squirming during a diaper change, standing up without parental support, the taste of peaches, and a thousand other little things. Crawling isn’t one of them.  You’re a master at getting your arms in position and your knees in position, but never at the same time.  As soon as one is ready, the other splays out involuntarily.  This frustrates you to no end.
You’re becoming more independent every day.  Gone are the days you wanted to snuggle up against me or sit in my lap to play.  Now, while you still want me near, you want to sit on your own and pound your ball into the ground over and over.  When my love for you overwhelms my restraint and I impulsively reach over to pick you up for a quick snuggle you arch your back and screech in protest.  When once I was the only person in the world who could comfort you enough that you could fall asleep, just last night you fell asleep in your dad’s arms.  It kills me a little but also makes my heart sing that you feel safe enough to risk doing things on your own. 
A couple of weeks ago Tucker got brave enough to lay down close enough for you to touch him.  You had been waiting for that day, looking at him with longing when he sat down out of your reach.  You were so gentle with him as I tried to show you how to pet him without grabbing his hair and pulling it out with that death grip of yours.  You even leaned down to put your face against his side.  I think you’ve made a friend for life.
You’re having so much fun playing with your toys all day that you don’t ever want to go to sleep at night.  Naps are OK because you know that soon you’ll be back to having fun.  But at night you fight sleep like it is evil personified (rather like your father, I must say).  Laying down on the bed with you no longer works, and don’t even think about trying to get you to go to sleep in your crib.  The only thing we can do is hold you until you simply can’t fight it anymore and you give in to the sand man’s call.  It’s been rather a pain in the ass truth be told.  But the reward of my little sleeping sack of potatoes, quiet and content in my arms is worth ten thousand hours of crying.
These days with you are so precious Ellis.  I would not trade one second for anything in the world.  We have so much fun, you and I.  Sometimes it makes me sad that you won’t remember this like I will.  The other day we pulled in the driveway and your dad and I decided to play some hacky sack so we set you down to watch.  I had never played before and was missing every other attempt at kicking the stupid bean bag.  I was frustrated as hell until I looked over at you and realized that you were laughing at me.  We played for 20 minutes with you cracking up every time I missed or jumped in the air to try to make contact with the hacky.  It was the most you have ever laughed and to quote what your dad said that night "That was the happiest moment in my entire life."
The joy you bring to us is like a ceaseless steady beam of light in our lives.  No amount of stress, no problems with money, no issues at work, can quell that feeling.  Even the darkest days are no match for that smile of yours.  I only hope that I can return one tenth of the happiness you have given me.
I love you Ellis,
Mom

 

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Short Sale

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Wednesday, 12 July 2006

What happens when your mortgage company decides it’s cheaper to take a loss on your house than to pay for foreclosure thereby allowing you to drop your asking price by more than 30 grand?

Hello 8 showings in one day!  I’m working on a 6 month Ellis update, hopefully I’ll have time to finish it tonight after the last showing at 8(!) tonight.

 

Holy Crap

Kathryn | Baby, baby, baby | Tuesday, 11 July 2006

Holy Crap

Have I Told You The One About…

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Friday, 07 July 2006

How I’m semi-related to Ken Lay?  My Aunt by marriage is Ken Lay’s sister.  She has only been my Aunt for a few years and I have never met any of her family.  She is a wonderful, kind, generous, and fun person.  Perhaps that’s why I find myself wanting to scream at the radio (yes YOU NPR) when all anyone can talk about is whether or not people are going to get their money from Ken Lays estate. 

I feel for all of the people who lost their asses because of what the man did, but he is gone now and his family did not do this to them.  How about a few days to let them grieve for their loved one?

Would I feel this way if I didn’t know my Aunt?  If I’m honest, probably not. 

Musings on The Legacy of Ellis’s Namesake

Kathryn | Uncategorized | Tuesday, 04 July 2006

The Unintended Consequences of Making Music

 

By Duane Gustavus, UNIX Research Analyst

 

In the world of geeks and hackers, I have "Old Guy" credentials, usually meaning I was programming computers before there was an IBM PC.* One of the more dubious benefits of gaining this status is having young people ask you questions like "How did you realize computers were the coming technology back in the 60’s?" It’s probably disillusioning for them to hear that I did no such thing; I was trying to make music.

In the computer industry, on discovering my degrees were in music, people often asked me about the relationship between music and programming computers. Folks had noticed that musicians often made superior programmers, and many abstruse theories were advanced to explain the observation. I typically mumbled something to the effect that it was easier to find someone who would pay me to program than it was to find someone who would pay me to make music. That was an evasion, of course, which deflected the question so I wouldn’t have to tell them what I really thought.

In the current UNT School of Music building complex, you can find the Merrill Ellis Intermedia Theater, complete with a bust of Merrill Ellis in the front. Merrill was my major professor and mentor during my student days at what was then NTSU, and I think he would have immensely enjoyed the whole thing. I believe studying music composition with Merrill did a great deal to prepare me to work with emergent technologies in ways neither of us fully appreciated at the time.

When I began studying with Merrill, his greatest enthusiasm was in weird stuff he called "Electronic Music." Now this is not weird stuff to most college students today, it’s just M-TV, but in the late 60’s it was the lunatic fringe. Some of his colleagues considered Merrill eccentric to the point of absurdity due to his interest in that electronically produced cacophony, not to mention the colored lights, slide projectors, costumed dancers and aerosol room deodorizers we variously tried to work into productions. None of his detractors, I can’t help but notice, have theaters named after them today.

His first electronic music studio was an upstairs room in the old Orchestra Hall (long since torn down) which nobody in their right mind wanted because it was situated over the Lab School Band rehearsal hall. I don’t remember ever hearing Merrill complain about it though. Ronn, Bruce and I (his student helpers AKA lab assistants) found it satisfactory, partly because of the view overlooking the Bruce Hall cafeteria. During our daily chore of cleaning off the plaster that had fallen from the ceiling onto the equipment the night before, we were sometimes entertained by co-eds sunbathing on the cafeteria roof, accessible from their windows I suppose. Besides, what we were doing was exciting and completely different from anything we imagined we would be doing in college. It was fascinating, and we could always put on earphones when band practice started.

Eventually, the faculty research committee awarded Merrill domain of
an old house on the edge of campus christened the Electronic Music Center. As a matter of fact, all of our financial support came from the faculty research committee; we couldn’t even get recording tape from the School of Music in those days. At first Merrill was concerned that someone would steal the equipment one night, since we didn’t enjoy the benefit of campus police patrols like real university buildings, but it quickly became apparent that there was seldom a time when "the lab," as we referred to it, was not in use. Merrill preferred working in the morning, and his cadre of wild-eyed young composers worked through the night most of the time (classes were taught in the afternoons).

Those early electronic sound synthesizers (we had the second Moog synthesizer ever sold and a custom version named the EII which Robert
Moog made to Merrill’s specifications for live performance) were really just glorified test instruments, bolstered by unsanctioned liberties with some old recording equipment. We had banks of oscillators, filters and amps crawling with bright colored patch cables and winking lights just like any science lab, but we weren’t expected to do science. We were encouraged to make music with the equipment. In addition, we augmented the synthesized sounds by burning holes in recording tape, slamming car doors, throwing tennis balls at bass drums, and eventually even programming computers to generate radio frequency interference that could be picked up on an AM radio.

We had no designs on a career in the high tech industry, though several of us ended up there. Changing the course of western civilization was more to our tastes, and probing the boundaries of what was accepted as music because we could, and in ways nobody had ever been able to before. To define what we were doing and make some sort of sense out of it was the perennial topic of conversation in the kitchen (labs occupied the living room and front bedroom while Merrill’s studio/office was in the back bedroom). We all had lots of course work in what music had been, but were convinced that was mere prologue; undeniably great art but as far from comprehensive as was science from the same period.

During breaks one of us might venture a definition of music as an arbitrary but internally self-consistent protocol for ordering sounds in time. If you were able to defend this proposition well enough, a supporter might offer that it was art rather than science because the protocol is open rather than closed. A helpful chum would observe that perhaps it was your lack of knowledge about both science and art that made your music so obnoxious, while another might conclude that no, it was intermodulation distortion acting to lower the threshold of pain at those high volume levels; perhaps it was time to change the tubes in the 354’s again. We would then retreat to our various responsibilities pondering arguments to buttress the positions we had staked-out.

So what does all this break-time banter have to do with musicians making good programmers? Perhaps it wasn’t the discipline of music that was important, but the opportunity of music. The willingness and even zest we were allowed in attacking the unknown and unknowable were the real preparation for predictable change in unpredictable directions. You know, to boldly go where no man had gone before.

I once had an otherwise attractive young woman tell me she thought Stevie Wonder (turn the way-back dial) was the greatest musician that had ever lived or ever would live. Now I was a Stevie Wonder fan too, and anxious to impress my date, but I could not imagine a more bizarre definition of music. Nobody has a universally applicable standard for what is music, so why would you ever want to believe it is something exhaustively explored? Who would want to live in a world where there could be no profound new music? As I remember, my date was not amused with me either.

Today so much emphasis seems to be placed by students and administration alike on "degrees that pay," I thought perhaps I might pen, virtually speaking of course, a few gentle words in praise of the adventure in learning; of the value in wandering out of your depth. If there’s a point here, I suppose it has to do with the idea that our expectations mold our concepts of technology as much as the other way around. Whether it’s test equipment or a new musical instrument should remain open to interpretation. Sure you need to master fundamentals, but try to take some time to make music with what you are studying. Who knows, they may name a building after you some day.